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Thursday, June 24, 2010

The Things You Shouldn't Do To Save Your Marriage

It is undeniably true to one relationship, especially between couples, that sometimes, or maybe oftentimes, you are going through serious misunderstanding which could lead to divorce. Because of this, you may think that your relationship will never work anymore, and either of you may want to have a divorce and you can’t find any reason to save your marriage even after marriage counseling and ultimately you would meet divorce lawyers. Admit it or not, the following are some of the causes which will lead you to be part:



Abusing your spouse physically or emotionally
This event will happen when you are trying to control your spouse and letting him/her to do what you have demanded, even if it contradicts their own self.This habit to abuse may cross the limits in the cases of alcohol abuse.


Breaking your vows and being an unreliable spouse
In your wedding ceremony, you make your vows to your spouse. You promised everything and you promised that you will always be together in romance through ups and downs. It is true that it really hurts once you have forgotten what you have promised. And when this happens, then your relationship may be in danger.


Continuing from being jealous
Being jealous is like saying that you are insecure. However, sometimes being jealous is the basis if you love or you are loved by your partner. But then, continuing from being jealous even if there is no reason to be jealous at all is the sure way to drive away your spouse and may lead into a divorce.


nability to forgive and forget
Recalling the past negative events such as betrayals or other past hurts will give you the reason to refuse your forgiveness, and be unable to forget.



Setting aside of your romance
Although schedules are oftentimes conflicting with your time to your family, you should try your best that you give time for your love and affection.


Avoiding or refusing to listen and communicate with your spouse
When you try to shut your spouse out of your life and even refuse to talk to your partner, then this will be the great danger in your marriage. This is because, the most important in a relationship is the communication; sharing your thoughts and feelings and stop annoying her.


Being unkind or uncaring towards your spouse
It is a fact that when you are already married, there is a possibility that your treatment towards each other will alter as seasons do. And, when your former being so kind, caring and loving to your spouse changed and become less than before, expect that your spouse may also do the same.


Lack of respect
Respect is always important in a relationship. Whether you and your spouse are already close to each other, you should still respect one another. When you lack respect to your spouse, fighting will then start. It will now be very hard for you two to renew the respect that once lost.


Throwing a hurtful teasing
Though some of your teases are just a joke, sometimes, you have to control it. You may not know that you are already hurting your spouse and you are still continuing to do it.You should always respect and love her in house and out house.


Dishonesty
This is the most powerful enemy of a "managing relationship", especially between married couple. Once you lied to your spouse, it would now be very hard for you to have his/her trust again. But, you should never lose hope. Exerting effort in explaining everything to your partner and telling him/her the reasons why you had done that kind of mistake, will surely give you the chance to be okay again.


Being and continuously being annoying
If you already know that your spouse are annoyed with you and your acts, and then you still continue being so annoying, then there would be a great tendency that a misunderstanding will occur.


Being high tempered
Being high tempered and easy to get mad will scared or traumatized your partner. This is a very dangerous trait for you. Your partner may want to leave you because of your attitude.


All of the above statements should be avoided. When you are already doing or experiencing the said problems then, it is time for you to seek counseling right away. So, to be able to avoid from having a divorce with your spouse, you need to exert much effort to renew and have a healthy relationship.
 
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